I am in a really bad situation. I have married my husband 14 moths ago. We have a son together. Since I started working ( I had OPT employment authorization) he started to abuse me,mostly emotionally. He would call me names, like stupid b****, s***, fat and etc. He would keep saying that I ruined his life, that the day he met me was the worst day of his life and etc. When I disagree with him on something, he yells at me and tells me that I am stupid and how he is tired of me. When I ask anything from, he keeps saying that I do not have a capacity to understand. My life is a nightmare now. I am isolated from anyone. I do not drive and he rarely takes me anywhere. I am feeling trapped and depressed. I cry every day. The only thing that keeps me going is my son. I want to be out of this relationship so bad. I do not know how long I can continue. I have been thinking about suicide constantly. He hit me several times as well. I did not report it to the police, but I have messages on facebook with my husband's sister where it is clear that he did hit me. He admitted it to her on the phone. I also have his messages sent from my phone to his sister saying that he hit me. Today our son was upset and would not go to sleep. He started hitting his butt. Wesley (our son) has bruises on his butt now. I tried to stop him. After that he tried to choke me by putting his hands on my neck. I do not know what to do and where to ask for help. I am worried about my son. He cannot grow up in such environment. What can I do? Can I apply for I-360? Do I have a chance? I really want to go back home to Russia, but my son is biracial and I am afraid he will be discriminated there. I really do not know what to do.
Emotionally and physically abusive marriage
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Jackolantern
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Do you have a green card? If yes, is it a 2-year card and when was it approved? If no, have you applied for a green card? Is your husband a US citizen?
Your answers to those questions will affect your options.
Your answers to those questions will affect your options.
And the US government will not let you take him outside the US if his father refuses to allow that, unless his parental rights have been terminated.
No, I have not. We still live together and I felt sorry for him. His family knows whats going on.
He is a US citizen. We have been together for 4 years and married for 14 months. We have not applied for green card yet. About my son:I know that he probably wont let me take him to Russua,thats why I have to stay here. If I did not have a son, I would be in Russia already.
I see nobody responds to me in this thread. I dot to my reaching point: I am done with my marriage. If I stay any longer, I will destroy myself and my son's childhood. I am going to a lawyer this week and I just sent a message to a counselor at women' shelter. I hope the lawyer will have good news for me. I also took a picture of my son's bruised butt. If you have any suggestions or if anyone went through similar situation, please message me I really need support right now.
ananga73
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You were asked a specific question which you have not answered. Have you reported or sought help from anyone other than family, like a health worker, a social worker within a hospital, a doctor? If not, forget it. What you are going to need is to file for a green card through VAWA.
Without having previously documented the abuse as corroborated by a social worker, health worker, law enforcement etc, your chances of winning a VAWA waiver are slim at best. VAWA has previously been abused my foreign spouses seeking green cards so expect to be scrutinized. I don't know if a one-time picture of a child's bruised butt will qualify you.
Seek professional help first i.e. the womens shelter counselor AND immigration attorney
Without having previously documented the abuse as corroborated by a social worker, health worker, law enforcement etc, your chances of winning a VAWA waiver are slim at best. VAWA has previously been abused my foreign spouses seeking green cards so expect to be scrutinized. I don't know if a one-time picture of a child's bruised butt will qualify you.
Seek professional help first i.e. the womens shelter counselor AND immigration attorney