Don't cry, Greencard soon!

Your mother is at an age where people can drop dead quickly from a heart attack or stroke or pneumonia. If that happens you will regret for the rest of your life that you didn't go to see her.

So forget about Mexico and go straight to China for a long vacation. Spend lots of time with your mother, and arrange your visa stamping while you're there (you may need an appointment far in advance, depending on the consulate). Whatever happens with the visa will happen.
 
Bless your heart, gcchina

gcchina, nobody is in your shoe, right? So don't take any judgment too serious.

Please research both on U.S. Mexican/Canadian consulates, see which one is more reasonable for you to get visa.

Best wishes for your visa and the most important, you will visit your mom and make her happy.
 
Campus said:
gcchina, nobody is in your shoe, right? So don't take any judgment too serious.

Please research both on U.S. Mexican/Canadian consulates, see which one is more reasonable for you to get visa.

Best wishes for your visa and the most important, you will visit your mom and make her happy.
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i agree that we do not know the reason/conditions due to which gcchina....has been living like this......

but in the same breath he thinks usa needs us very badly.............if we the immigrants can go to such extent for the H1B visa.......i am sure USA will keep treating us like this forever.....
 
Most people appear to have answers to their own situations...

...so why not gcchina?

Firstly, my previous post was not targeted towards any individual, rather was an observation culled from a few responses.

Secondly, it is clear that people know why they would or would not do something in any given situation. Some have argued that they are victims, are losing all happiness, and may have an impending and inevitable heart disease creep behind our backs. Well, if you look around, there's plenty to be miserable out...

We can blame America, it's immigration policies or whatever else we choose. Granted, these are very tough times, and the debate on this issue has happened one too many times. Whether we are economic slaves, toiling in the grime and dust of corporate ruthlessness, or white-collar, above-average paid servants, can be dissected and re-dissected innumerous number of times. Even if some of us got our GCs, and then eventually citizenships, we will always hold a certain resentment against the system, for not giving us more, for not treating us better. This is how some of us are. And that's okay too.

Others have argued that if they were in gcchina's situation, they would have done this or that, and upheld family unifications as the most paramount thing. That's exactly the point. We (they) are not in gcchina's shoes and never will be. Even if they were in a similar situation, they will never be "exactly" in his shoes. So, where's the debate? What we do, or he does, in any given situation is usually our prerogative.

However, it is possible that some posters here know gcchina personally and are very close friends of his. In that case, "maybe" they have earned the right to admonish him for failing on his "duties". In which case, I rescind some of my statements back.

In my humble opinion, I think we should respond to gcchina's primary questions that pertain to his visa appointment and consulate choice selection, provided we can answer them. After all, that is the reason why he came to this forum. Why he did not visit his parents and for how long is a deeply personal subject and must be dealt with some sensitivity. It just so happened that he mentioned those facts while he sought answers to his primray questions...but wait, I must stop lest I be deemed a too too philosophical again...

Good evening to you all...
 
GC_TRAP said:
...so why not gcchina?

Firstly, my previous post was not targeted towards any individual, rather was an observation culled from a few responses.

Secondly, it is clear that people know why they would or would not do something in any given situation. Some have argued that they are victims, are losing all happiness, and may have an impending and inevitable heart disease creep behind our backs. Well, if you look around, there's plenty to be miserable out...

We can blame America, it's immigration policies or whatever else we choose. Granted, these are very tough times, and the debate on this issue has happened one too many times. Whether we are economic slaves, toiling in the grime and dust of corporate ruthlessness, or white-collar, above-average paid servants, can be dissected and re-dissected innumerous number of times. Even if some of us got our GCs, and then eventually citizenships, we will always hold a certain resentment against the system, for not giving us more, for not treating us better. This is how some of us are. And that's okay too.

Others have argued that if they were in gcchina's situation, they would have done this or that, and upheld family unifications as the most paramount thing. That's exactly the point. We (they) are not in gcchina's shoes and never will be. Even if they were in a similar situation, they will never be "exactly" in his shoes. So, where's the debate? What we do, or he does, in any given situation is usually our prerogative.

However, it is possible that some posters here know gcchina personally and are very close friends of his. In that case, "maybe" they have earned the right to admonish him for failing on his "duties". In which case, I rescind some of my statements back.

In my humble opinion, I think we should respond to gcchina's primary questions that pertain to his visa appointment and consulate choice selection, provided we can answer them. After all, that is the reason why he came to this forum. Why he did not visit his parents and for how long is a deeply personal subject and must be dealt with some sensitivity. It just so happened that he mentioned those facts while he sought answers to his primray questions...but wait, I must stop lest I be deemed a too too philosophical again...

Good evening to you all...
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I do not blame america for our conditions......its a simple of equation demand and supply...........the day we stop caring for this life in america.......maybe if they really need us they will wake up and make immigrants friendly rules..........otherwise we are doing this by choice.....

many may say that they did not know this four years back..........well that master of the house does not care........and now you know how he feels about you......so what are you going to do now???

i do feel sorry for being harsh on GCchina.......its true nobody can be in anyone's shoes...........but when people like me who plan and double plan every day......are suffering .....sorry i do not have sympathy for naive people.........

its possible that gcchina is just unfortunate that he is in his 10th year of H1b.....but his PD is still 2005............but it is also possible that he mismanaged it.......

but my anger is at our apathy............this desire to live in usa at any cost.......maybe conditions are not favorable in home country.........if so, please do not say that you USA needs you...........and they will make rule to help you......


on the one hand we profess that we are required by america very badly.....on the other hand we are telling sob stories.......of how we are struggling to live a dignified life (my IP got banned on IV because i questioned another sob story....ending with a GC after 13 years of struggle..).......

if we are really required and important......do you think we will put up with all this???.....do you think we will not try to create a life outside of usa?? if we are really so skilled...
 
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Good comments Techy!
I'll only say though that there is nothing wrong with venting off some frustration on this forum as long as it doesn't turn into whining!
Also people have started to react to the current immigration mess.....I personally know many folks(including GC holders) who have packed and gone back to India...These things work like a ripple effect...slow at first and then they suddenly pick up momentum....if things don't change in a couple of years I see this thing going in a way where lost of folks in their 20s with very low exp. coming in saving some good money and then leaving when they start getting ready to climb the corporate ladder.
 
CoolTiger said:
Good comments Techy!
I'll only say though that there is nothing wrong with venting off some frustration on this forum as long as it doesn't turn into whining!
Also people have started to react to the current immigration mess.....I personally know many folks(including GC holders) who have packed and gone back to India...These things work like a ripple effect...slow at first and then they suddenly pick up momentum....if things don't change in a couple of years I see this thing going in a way where lost of folks in their 20s with very low exp. coming in saving some good money and then leaving when they start getting ready to climb the corporate ladder.
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I am happy that the retrogression is finally taking such a ugly turn.....leaving no room for hopes....now most practical people have very good reason to plan a trip to another place.......rather than rot over here....

i will be happy that day........when people work for 4-5 years with intention to leave.....maybe it wont affect USA much......but atleast we immigrant will not be stuck in a quagmire.....with nothing but frustration.......and of course then we can truly claim that we are skilled and worthwhile.....able enough to create our life somewhere else if we are not welcome here...
 
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