Complex situation needs clarification please.

[nan0man]

Wow.. you might want to take care of this issue before you leave. In fact, you could be detained at the airport. Security is SOOOO tight that very detailed information about all passengers - even how many bags you checked in are going to be in the system (very recently I was in a flight where the flight was delayed because of luggage count didn't match with some list or something). So, if they have a system in place to check for warrants - you might be toast.

For your and your own family's sake - TAKE CARE OF THIS CHILD SUPPORT ISSUE NOW!!!

As i said earlier, I AM taking care of this isssue, obviously I'm not trying to go to jail. I just wanted to know if they check this kind of thing on leaving the US,(which i now understand they do).

I have been on travelled on planes 4 times this year within the continental US with no problems, (thank god), so i guess they only check for warrants if your leaving the country??

 

[Al Southner]

As i said earlier, I AM taking care of this isssue, obviously I'm not trying to go to jail. I just wanted to know if they check this kind of thing on leaving the US,(which i now understand they do).

I have been on travelled on planes 4 times this year within the continental US with no problems, (thank god), so i guess they only check for warrants if your leaving the country??

Nan,

For all international flights and domestic, people data is collected for security reasons. I am certain on the day that you plan to leave the country, as soon as you have your ticket purchases, your name will be run across all available databases to ensure you aren't fleeing from the law. The child support issue I suspect is going to have you detained at the airport until they figure or you prove that you aren't suppose to pay the $35k. Even if your ex-wife decides she doesn't the money, the issue won't go away as you will need a judge to issue an injunction bring this matter to rest.. Just do a DNA and free yourself or have a finality on the paternity of this child... Are you involved in the child's life? If I were you, I wouldn't rely on my ex-wife because what if she secretly harbors thoughts of sending you to jail as a punishment for whatever... Ex-wife's schadenfreude

 

[nan0man]

Nan,

Are you involved in the child's life?

No not been any part of the childs life since she was born. During the pregnancy I was a model father to be, even though my ex wife was still sneaking around and sleeping with at least 2 other men.

When we had the child she basically disappeared and moved in with the new guy. I didn't even know where my child was for the longest time. It was a horrible time for me, to lose my daughter and have her be used as a pawn in my ex wifes ugly games.

I had no family to help me, no real friends as I was relatively new to the country, and since she wasen't co-operating with my immigration stuff I was scared to go to the courts thinking they would deport me or something. LUCKILY my boss managed to get me a job in a new state and I moved hoping to start again. Then a year or so later my ex wife starts calling/harrassing me to sign over my rights and divorce papers. I signed the divorce papers but not the release of rights since I still wanted to try and be a part of my daughters life. She told me she would do everything she could to make doing that as hard as possible and that I should forget about my daughter.

I'm sure every 'deadbeat dad' says the same thing, but...I did nothing to deserve all this. I was working 3 seperate security jobs during the pregnancy while she didn't work at all, 3 hrs sleep a night sometimes and falling asleep on the job as i was so tired. All this while she's is out clubbing with her friends and staying out until 8am. Sure, I gave her a hard time about doing THAT stuff but who wouldn't?

I'm pretty sure she would be diagnosed as bi-polar if she saw a doc, no morals or desire to 'do the right thing'. Lucky I got out when I did just a huge shame we had to have a child involved in all this.

In my opinion, it would be reckless of me to suddenly show up in my daughters life when she has a reletively stable home life with 2 parents,(i assume she's still with the same guy). My daughter is 11 now and I feel its a bit late to just show up. Maybe one day she will track me down and I can explain the situation to her as an adult. Fotunately my ex wife never made any bones about acting crazy in front of ANYONE so I'm pretty sure my daughter will at least understand I'm telling the truth regarding her mothers unwillingness to co-operate with me.

I'm really hoping she will sign the affadavit to release me of the child support but I'm not holding my breath and since I dont have the right to work here in the US, I must go back to the UK soon. I'm not going to apply for AOS when theres a good chance there will be major problems as I want to move back to the UK anyway.


EDIT: Oh and whats the point of doing the paternity test? I personally think the child IS mine and the ex is just saying she isn't to get rid of me, so if I do a paternity,(which is another $500 I don't have) and it shows I AM the father then I'm really responsible for the child support.
What to do....

 

[F4ith]

No not been any part of the childs life since she was born. During the pregnancy I was a model father to be, even though my ex wife was still sneaking around and sleeping with at least 2 other men.

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EDIT: Oh and whats the point of doing the paternity test? I personally think the child IS mine and the ex is just saying she isn't to get rid of me, so if I do a paternity,(which is another $500 I don't have) and it shows I AM the father then I'm really responsible for the child support.
What to do....

The problem right now regardless of the paternity test, you ARE CURRENTLY responsible for the child support. If I were you, I will pay the $500 to see if the child is really mine or not. If it is and you don't want to have relation with the child, then ask your wife to sign that you are not obligated for the child support (That is if she stands with her words about she doesnt need child support from you). If it is and you want to be part of the child's life then start paying the 35k (I am sure they have payment plan) and go to the family court to get visitation rights and etc... If it is not your child, your problem is solved and you can start apply for the GC. Personally I think $500 is nothing to have this big question answered. I can't imagine how I am going to live to wake up every morning and keep wondering if she is my child or not. Just my 2c...