No-no-no. That's the wrong way to get their attention. Please remember that the clerks/officers who are processing your case make LESS than you do (and they know how much you make!) and have the same jobs their whole lives so you won't get any compassion from them because you didn't see any promotions in a few years.
As for mental distress - they can always say "go back if you suffer here so much".
Please be as tranquil and logical as possible. State facts (same employer, name check cleared years ago (a fax from the FBI is a must), FP cleared, 3 or 4 EADs), mistakes made by the Service (no response after the 60-day letter) and the discrepancies between your receipt date and what they state on their website (1/02 vs. 06/03).
Please be polite and use English correctly (I don't think you are going to have a problem there).
If you want I can help you draw a draft of your expedite fax.