marriedtoanut
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I entered the US on an F1 Visa in 08/2002. In 04/2005, I got married to a girl I had known since my first day of college. It was a genuine marriage, full of laughter and love and blah blah blah. I went out of status on 05/2005. I filed for my paperwork on 04/2006, had my interview in 09/2006, which went through smoothly and the lady said that we would have to wait for the FBI namecheck to clear. In Dec, I had to file a Waiver of Excludability. I had a 3 year old marijuana misdemeanor on my record and the out of status situation. Cut to 12/2007 and the FBI namecheck hasn't cleared. I put in a status check in 10/2007 and they said to check back in 6 months.
The major dilemma now though is that I recently found out that my wife has been cheating on me for god knows how long with god knows how many men. When confronted with this news, my wife threw a fit and pretty much told me it was my fault. The last two years of swiping my credit card to feed her fine food and give her bright shiny things as well as a dog (which is partly why I'm 8k in debt) were apparently loveless tortorous years for her, full of much pain and misery and Outback steaks. My wife pretty much left with the car and told me it was over. Devastated, I had no choice but to move to Seattle where the only family I have in the US lives.
My question to you is what can I do at this point? I don't want to go back home and don't think I should have to. It's not my fault that the woman I married turned into a complete nutjob two years down the line. We are supposedly still working things out, but her parents tell me that they have already started divorce proceedings against me. I would go and get an attorney, but I don't have a lot of money and I want to make sure that getting an attorney is going to accomplish SOMETHING, before I hand over the cash. This woman is absolutely crazy. She compares getting deported to her being grounded by her parents. I'm serious. She's been telling me that my dog's still in Omaha and she sees him everyday when I just found out that they (my moral, upright inlaws who told me that we shouldn't stay married because their daughter doesn't have health insurance) gave my dog away to someone who lives in Colorado. I know that in the eyes of the government I'm not even a person, but why should these people be allowed to get away with this because I'm not an American? I did nothing wrong. And I'm the one who's losing everything over it. My Visa's expired, my passport is about to expire and my EAD is about to expire. I finally found a job I like with people who think I'm smart and it's all about to go away.
Please help me out. I am at my wit's end. This woman tells me we are still working things out, but I really don't believe her and don't want to anymore. I want my card and I want to move on with my life.
And NEVER EVER EVER date again.
The major dilemma now though is that I recently found out that my wife has been cheating on me for god knows how long with god knows how many men. When confronted with this news, my wife threw a fit and pretty much told me it was my fault. The last two years of swiping my credit card to feed her fine food and give her bright shiny things as well as a dog (which is partly why I'm 8k in debt) were apparently loveless tortorous years for her, full of much pain and misery and Outback steaks. My wife pretty much left with the car and told me it was over. Devastated, I had no choice but to move to Seattle where the only family I have in the US lives.
My question to you is what can I do at this point? I don't want to go back home and don't think I should have to. It's not my fault that the woman I married turned into a complete nutjob two years down the line. We are supposedly still working things out, but her parents tell me that they have already started divorce proceedings against me. I would go and get an attorney, but I don't have a lot of money and I want to make sure that getting an attorney is going to accomplish SOMETHING, before I hand over the cash. This woman is absolutely crazy. She compares getting deported to her being grounded by her parents. I'm serious. She's been telling me that my dog's still in Omaha and she sees him everyday when I just found out that they (my moral, upright inlaws who told me that we shouldn't stay married because their daughter doesn't have health insurance) gave my dog away to someone who lives in Colorado. I know that in the eyes of the government I'm not even a person, but why should these people be allowed to get away with this because I'm not an American? I did nothing wrong. And I'm the one who's losing everything over it. My Visa's expired, my passport is about to expire and my EAD is about to expire. I finally found a job I like with people who think I'm smart and it's all about to go away.
Please help me out. I am at my wit's end. This woman tells me we are still working things out, but I really don't believe her and don't want to anymore. I want my card and I want to move on with my life.
And NEVER EVER EVER date again.
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