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shane9

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wife from hell, please help!

I am a Chinese-American US citizen businessman who travels to China frequently, met a beautiful girl in 2004, applied for F-1 Fiance Visa, and then married her on 12/12/2005. Filed for Adjustment of Status in Jan 2006
I left the country on a business trip on Feb 2006, everything was going fine, I suspected nothing through the daily phone calls.

But when I came back to US in early April, she was gone, she took at least 30,000 cash from my business as well. I called her, she would answer sometimes and said she was angry with me, said I was unfaithful to her, left her alone all the time and other lies. Said she loved me, but was just angry for a while, needed some time alone, etc. Frequently accused me of not loving her just because sometimes I have work to do. Told me to put money into her account and she would come back a month... She would make everything my fault, said I was yelling at her over the phone or whatever and guilt me into giving her more money...

This went on till July, I finally had enough, my efforts to try and track her down led me to discover that she has been making dozens of calls a day to several cell phone numbers since March, I called the numbers...
...Eventually I discovered that my wife was cheating on me... maybe with more than one man... and has been cheating on me all this time, WHILE SHE was accusing ME of being unfaithful to her (lies)

I confronted her, then more lies, more lies, and more heartbreak, she would said she doesn't know this guy, doesn't know that guy, only knew that guy for a week... all lies
ALL I know is that she has been sleeping with at least one of the other men regularly at least since April... she was learning English so fast as well that she was dating white guys and black guys who can only speak english

God, I was so sad, I tried to kill myself, I was laying around in bed for months...
She USED me, I was nothing to her, she laughs at me...
what happened? what has she become? She was NOT the girl I know, can just coming to America change a girl like that? She was beautiful and men always hits on her, even when I'm next to her, even so...

I WANTED to know WHY? WHEN? WHAT HAPPENED? I called her, I wanted to talk to her, but often she'd just put down the cell phone and not listen to me. I can hear her laughing and watching TV with a man and she would not listen to me all the while I couldn't breathe because my heart was hurting so bad.

I finally gave up on her now, it has not been easy, you see, she was really beautiful and really good in bed, and she has this beautiful and soft hands when she give you a massage.

All I have for her is hatred now, she is the devil in red dress, I don't know what happened to change her into a slut, she wasn't like that at all before she was in America. Is it the freedom? I remember her saying that everything felt so free, so much freedom, eg. no one tries to follow her everywhere her when she buys clothes; you can drive everywhere, etc. At the time, I didn't know that this "freedom" would change her into a slut

I hated her for using me, I hated her for living in my city, using my money to buy expensive clothes, using my money to buy gifts to give to her boyfriends, I hated her so much I wanted to kill her.

I realize I needed to get her out, I needed to kick her out of the US, only that will make me feel any better. I asked her if she would be willing to leave the US on her own, but she said NO. SAID SHE DOESN'T NEED ME TO STAY IN THE US NOW, SAID SOME RICH GUY IS GONNA MARRY HER.
I can't afford to hire a lawyer, since my business is not doing well with me depressed and hurting all the time.

She has taken everything related to the Visa filing, the AOS, and the USCIS with her when her ran away. I also didn't get any mail from the USCIS, she probably changed the address.
I only know that she had gone to have her biometrics taken. She probably also has a temporary green card by now.
As of now, I am still legally married to her.

Right now I don't know what to do, all I want is for her to leave and go back to where I picked her up. And if any of the guys she has been seeing wants to, he can go to CHINA to get her into the US himself. THIS IS FAIR, RIGHT?

She said I don't have proof of anything, she said that I was the one who was unfaithful, she said I took money from her... everything has been twisted by her lying.

I would've killed myself by now if this other girl in China hadn't lent me her ears and comforted me from time to time. I think maybe I can love this other girl, she would be a GOOD wife. But right now I still feel broken.
THAT demoness is still in the US... HOW DO I KICK HER OUT? please help!
 
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I'm sorry about your bad experience. First, she didn't become a bad person. Obviously, she has been a bad person all along but just kept up the good front to get you into loving her and finally obtaining a green card. I'd say, forget about her. You don't have to do anything. A woman like that, will never live a good life, feel happy or raise a nice family. She's going to be miserable so don't beat yourself up for beinb deceived. I can understand your feelings and broken heart, but just let it go. Concentrate on yourself, your business and future.

I didn't like one thing in your topic though :

it has not been easy, you see, she was really beautiful and really good in bed
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My friend! This not the way you choose youe lifetime partner. Beauty and sex are not the only factors that ensure happiness. When you only care about the things on the surface (beauty, sex, etc.) and neglect deep personal qualities (kindness, passion, understanding, etc.) you end up getting screwed by persons who exactly know how to fool you. My advice, look for the woman inside. Outside doesn't really matter that much.

Finally, I hope you find relief, stop thinking about revenge, put yourself back together and live a good life from now on.
 
Are you an IDIOT?

shane9 said:
I am a Chinese-American US citizen businessman who travels to China frequently, met a beautiful girl in 2004, applied for F-1 Fiance Visa, and then married her on 12/12/2005. Filed for Adjustment of Status in Jan 2006
I left the country on a business trip on Feb 2006, everything was going fine, I suspected nothing through the daily phone calls.

But when I came back to US in early April, she was gone, she took at least 30,000 cash from my business as well. I called her, she would answer sometimes and said she was angry with me, said I was unfaithful to her, left her alone all the time and other lies. Said she loved me, but was just angry for a while, needed some time alone, etc. Frequently accused me of not loving her just because sometimes I have work to do. Told me to put money into her account and she would come back a month... She would make everything my fault, said I was yelling at her over the phone or whatever and guilt me into giving her more money...

This went on till July, I finally had enough, my efforts to try and track her down led me to discover that she has been making dozens of calls a day to several cell phone numbers since March, I called the numbers...
...Eventually I discovered that my wife was cheating on me... maybe with more than one man... and has been cheating on me all this time, WHILE SHE was accusing ME of being unfaithful to her (lies)

I confronted her, then more lies, more lies, and more heartbreak, she would said she doesn't know this guy, doesn't know that guy, only knew that guy for a week... all lies
ALL I know is that she has been sleeping with at least one of the other men regularly at least since April... she was learning English so fast as well that she was dating white guys and black guys who can only speak english

God, I was so sad, I tried to kill myself, I was laying around in bed for months...
She USED me, I was nothing to her, she laughs at me...
what happened? what has she become? She was NOT the girl I know, can just coming to America change a girl like that? She was beautiful and men always hits on her, even when I'm next to her, even so...

I WANTED to know WHY? WHEN? WHAT HAPPENED? I called her, I wanted to talk to her, but often she'd just put down the cell phone and not listen to me. I can hear her laughing and watching TV with a man and she would not listen to me all the while I couldn't breathe because my heart was hurting so bad.

I finally gave up on her now, it has not been easy, you see, she was really beautiful and really good in bed, and she has this beautiful and soft hands when she give you a massage.

All I have for her is hatred now, she is the devil in red dress, I don't know what happened to change her into a slut, she wasn't like that at all before she was in America. Is it the freedom? I remember her saying that everything felt so free, so much freedom, eg. no one tries to follow her everywhere her when she buys clothes; you can drive everywhere, etc. At the time, I didn't know that this "freedom" would change her into a slut

I hated her for using me, I hated her for living in my city, using my money to buy expensive clothes, using my money to buy gifts to give to her boyfriends, I hated her so much I wanted to kill her.

I realize I needed to get her out, I needed to kick her out of the US, only that will make me feel any better. I asked her if she would be willing to leave the US on her own, but she said NO. SAID SHE DOESN'T NEED ME TO STAY IN THE US NOW, SAID SOME RICH GUY IS GONNA MARRY HER.
I can't afford to hire a lawyer, since my business is not doing well with me depressed and hurting all the time.

She has taken everything related to the Visa filing, the AOS, and the USCIS with her when her ran away. I also didn't get any mail from the USCIS, she probably changed the address.
I only know that she had gone to have her biometrics taken. She probably also has a temporary green card by now.
As of now, I am still legally married to her.

Right now I don't know what to do, all I want is for her to leave and go back to where I picked her up. And if any of the guys she has been seeing wants to, he can go to CHINA to get her into the US himself. THIS IS FAIR, RIGHT?

She said I don't have proof of anything, she said that I was the one who was unfaithful, she said I took money from her... everything has been twisted by her lying.

I would've killed myself by now if this other girl in China hadn't lent me her ears and comforted me from time to time. I think maybe I can love this other girl, she would be a GOOD wife. But right now I still feel broken.
THAT demoness is still in the US... HOW DO I KICK HER OUT? please help!
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Man.. :(

Are you an IDIOT or what? Listen, you got screwed, she is on a path of destruction. You need to attend the interview with her for the greencard to be issued, so she doesn't have a temporary greencard. For now, get help from a pyschologist or psychiatrist. :cool:

Why the hell do you want to kill yourself for her? Man... this world is full of beautiful women, who can massage you to death. So, open a criminal case against her, stealing money from your husband is a crime. Marriage doesn't cure bad moral character. I wonder how long you knew her... :rolleyes:

This board is not going to offer you any psychological help, which I will recommend very strongly or you are going to ruin your life for something which is temporary. Death is permanent, marital problems are temporal, so act wisely or you are going to suffer as a result of this situation. ;)

For now, she is screwing other guys. As such, this is infidelity and you can write to USCIS and tell them you plan to withdraw your petition. My advise, go to your local USCIS, as an american citizen, you can be in a position to talk to an officer and request that this case be denied as you no longer want to sponsor your whoring wife... :o

Lastly, man... get it together and focus on living, NOT dying. This world need people like you, business people who create jobs and bring new ideas to our business world. So, defeat this person by living and recovering all that you lost.... :D On a final note, next time you date someone, don't get her to give you a massage, because you might end up marrying her as well, and she will also screw you... :eek:
 
I am sorry that you are hurting. What you need to do now is take care of yourself. Get some help, counseling if necessary.

She is only going to be able to get but so far because she has to within 90 days of the 2 years get the conditions removed. She can't necessary do that living apart from you. She can't marry until you two divorce so she will only get so far with what she has done.

All you have to do is contact USCIS and get information about your case or better yet make an Infopass appointment to be able to find out the status of the case. Do not, I REPEAT GIVE HER ANY MORE MONEY. IT WILL NOT BRING HER BACK TO YOU OR CHANGE HER. IN THIS WORLD, YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

You must forgive her in order to be well yourself and right with God but you do not have to support her financially. Protect yourself and your business and get strong again. You can do it. It is not the end of the world. Please take care of yourself.

:)
 
shane9 said:
I am a Chinese-American US citizen businessman who travels to China frequently, met a beautiful girl in 2004, applied for F-1 Fiance Visa, and then married her on 12/12/2005. Filed for Adjustment of Status in Jan 2006
I left the country on a business trip on Feb 2006, everything was going fine, I suspected nothing through the daily phone calls.

But when I came back to US in early April, she was gone, she took at least 30,000 cash from my business as well. I called her, she would answer sometimes and said she was angry with me, said I was unfaithful to her, left her alone all the time and other lies. Said she loved me, but was just angry for a while, needed some time alone, etc. Frequently accused me of not loving her just because sometimes I have work to do. Told me to put money into her account and she would come back a month... She would make everything my fault, said I was yelling at her over the phone or whatever and guilt me into giving her more money...

This went on till July, I finally had enough, my efforts to try and track her down led me to discover that she has been making dozens of calls a day to several cell phone numbers since March, I called the numbers...
...Eventually I discovered that my wife was cheating on me... maybe with more than one man... and has been cheating on me all this time, WHILE SHE was accusing ME of being unfaithful to her (lies)

I confronted her, then more lies, more lies, and more heartbreak, she would said she doesn't know this guy, doesn't know that guy, only knew that guy for a week... all lies
ALL I know is that she has been sleeping with at least one of the other men regularly at least since April... she was learning English so fast as well that she was dating white guys and black guys who can only speak english

God, I was so sad, I tried to kill myself, I was laying around in bed for months...
She USED me, I was nothing to her, she laughs at me...
what happened? what has she become? She was NOT the girl I know, can just coming to America change a girl like that? She was beautiful and men always hits on her, even when I'm next to her, even so...

I WANTED to know WHY? WHEN? WHAT HAPPENED? I called her, I wanted to talk to her, but often she'd just put down the cell phone and not listen to me. I can hear her laughing and watching TV with a man and she would not listen to me all the while I couldn't breathe because my heart was hurting so bad.

I finally gave up on her now, it has not been easy, you see, she was really beautiful and really good in bed, and she has this beautiful and soft hands when she give you a massage.

All I have for her is hatred now, she is the devil in red dress, I don't know what happened to change her into a slut, she wasn't like that at all before she was in America. Is it the freedom? I remember her saying that everything felt so free, so much freedom, eg. no one tries to follow her everywhere her when she buys clothes; you can drive everywhere, etc. At the time, I didn't know that this "freedom" would change her into a slut

I hated her for using me, I hated her for living in my city, using my money to buy expensive clothes, using my money to buy gifts to give to her boyfriends, I hated her so much I wanted to kill her.

I realize I needed to get her out, I needed to kick her out of the US, only that will make me feel any better. I asked her if she would be willing to leave the US on her own, but she said NO. SAID SHE DOESN'T NEED ME TO STAY IN THE US NOW, SAID SOME RICH GUY IS GONNA MARRY HER.
I can't afford to hire a lawyer, since my business is not doing well with me depressed and hurting all the time.

She has taken everything related to the Visa filing, the AOS, and the USCIS with her when her ran away. I also didn't get any mail from the USCIS, she probably changed the address.
I only know that she had gone to have her biometrics taken. She probably also has a temporary green card by now.
As of now, I am still legally married to her.

Right now I don't know what to do, all I want is for her to leave and go back to where I picked her up. And if any of the guys she has been seeing wants to, he can go to CHINA to get her into the US himself. THIS IS FAIR, RIGHT?

She said I don't have proof of anything, she said that I was the one who was unfaithful, she said I took money from her... everything has been twisted by her lying.

I would've killed myself by now if this other girl in China hadn't lent me her ears and comforted me from time to time. I think maybe I can love this other girl, she would be a GOOD wife. But right now I still feel broken.
THAT demoness is still in the US... HOW DO I KICK HER OUT? please help!
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I am not interested (and neither are most people on here) in hearing about your intimate bedroom details --- please stick to the facts relevant to immigration.

If what you write is true, you have my sympathy. She has defrauded you. You have many other issues to clear up ---- divorce, property etc and you should consult with a competent attorney. As for immigration, believe it or not, but the case really does not have much to do with you anymore. You can write USCIS, attempt to withdraw your petition and tell them about the situation, but in the end the matter is now between her and USCIS. USCIS will investigate and make their own conclusions. There is very little that you can do.

As sad as it may be, she may very well end up with her GC and successfully remove conditions later.
 
1. Call USCIS.

2. Give them your #SSN. Tell them you were used by other people for immigration benifit. You want to withdraw your I-130. They will tell you how to withdraw your case. Letter and signature may be needed.

3. Do not file a divorce yet. No touch no yelling in case she wants to fill spouse abusement againest you. Since she's married to you, so she can not immediately marry somone else, but her green card will be denied since you withdraw 130 also her work permission will be invalid, just let her be illegal for a while for the sake of punishment.

4. File a divorce later and find a new girl enjoy your life.

shane9 said:
I am a Chinese-American US citizen businessman who travels to China frequently, met a beautiful girl in 2004, applied for F-1 Fiance Visa, and then married her on 12/12/2005. Filed for Adjustment of Status in Jan 2006
I left the country on a business trip on Feb 2006, everything was going fine, I suspected nothing through the daily phone calls.

But when I came back to US in early April, she was gone, she took at least 30,000 cash from my business as well. I called her, she would answer sometimes and said she was angry with me, said I was unfaithful to her, left her alone all the time and other lies. Said she loved me, but was just angry for a while, needed some time alone, etc. Frequently accused me of not loving her just because sometimes I have work to do. Told me to put money into her account and she would come back a month... She would make everything my fault, said I was yelling at her over the phone or whatever and guilt me into giving her more money...

This went on till July, I finally had enough, my efforts to try and track her down led me to discover that she has been making dozens of calls a day to several cell phone numbers since March, I called the numbers...
...Eventually I discovered that my wife was cheating on me... maybe with more than one man... and has been cheating on me all this time, WHILE SHE was accusing ME of being unfaithful to her (lies)

I confronted her, then more lies, more lies, and more heartbreak, she would said she doesn't know this guy, doesn't know that guy, only knew that guy for a week... all lies
ALL I know is that she has been sleeping with at least one of the other men regularly at least since April... she was learning English so fast as well that she was dating white guys and black guys who can only speak english

God, I was so sad, I tried to kill myself, I was laying around in bed for months...
She USED me, I was nothing to her, she laughs at me...
what happened? what has she become? She was NOT the girl I know, can just coming to America change a girl like that? She was beautiful and men always hits on her, even when I'm next to her, even so...

I WANTED to know WHY? WHEN? WHAT HAPPENED? I called her, I wanted to talk to her, but often she'd just put down the cell phone and not listen to me. I can hear her laughing and watching TV with a man and she would not listen to me all the while I couldn't breathe because my heart was hurting so bad.

I finally gave up on her now, it has not been easy, you see, she was really beautiful and really good in bed, and she has this beautiful and soft hands when she give you a massage.

All I have for her is hatred now, she is the devil in red dress, I don't know what happened to change her into a slut, she wasn't like that at all before she was in America. Is it the freedom? I remember her saying that everything felt so free, so much freedom, eg. no one tries to follow her everywhere her when she buys clothes; you can drive everywhere, etc. At the time, I didn't know that this "freedom" would change her into a slut

I hated her for using me, I hated her for living in my city, using my money to buy expensive clothes, using my money to buy gifts to give to her boyfriends, I hated her so much I wanted to kill her.

I realize I needed to get her out, I needed to kick her out of the US, only that will make me feel any better. I asked her if she would be willing to leave the US on her own, but she said NO. SAID SHE DOESN'T NEED ME TO STAY IN THE US NOW, SAID SOME RICH GUY IS GONNA MARRY HER.
I can't afford to hire a lawyer, since my business is not doing well with me depressed and hurting all the time.

She has taken everything related to the Visa filing, the AOS, and the USCIS with her when her ran away. I also didn't get any mail from the USCIS, she probably changed the address.
I only know that she had gone to have her biometrics taken. She probably also has a temporary green card by now.
As of now, I am still legally married to her.

Right now I don't know what to do, all I want is for her to leave and go back to where I picked her up. And if any of the guys she has been seeing wants to, he can go to CHINA to get her into the US himself. THIS IS FAIR, RIGHT?

She said I don't have proof of anything, she said that I was the one who was unfaithful, she said I took money from her... everything has been twisted by her lying.

I would've killed myself by now if this other girl in China hadn't lent me her ears and comforted me from time to time. I think maybe I can love this other girl, she would be a GOOD wife. But right now I still feel broken.
THAT demoness is still in the US... HOW DO I KICK HER OUT? please help!
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Feel Sorry for u man....But dude frankly speaking.....I dont blame u....if the other person wears a mask of innocense....naive people fall for it....

Shit happens in life...Just take it....And try to move on...Others have already given u advice as to wat u need to do legally....

GOD BLESS.....
 
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