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nilushi

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I'm sorry for the long thread, i just wanted to give you the details of my situation.


i'm on the verge of a divorce with my husband (usc), he has been very abusive and has been cheating on me. we got married about 3 years ago. everything was well until mid 2005, i just couldn't handle it any longer and moved out.

He did not show up for our intial interview, b/c his uncle passed on and it was more important to him to attend his burial besides our interview.

he said i should reschedule, that its not uncommon to reschedule. i reluctantly did becuase i had no other choice, all i'm hoping for is for him to hang on with me until i get a green card then we can go our seperate ways.


I talked with an attornery who told me inteviews can be reschudule only twice and if you are called the third time and you don't show up, thats it for you.



i luckily recieved a second notice for april 14th 2006, however he has legal issues and is locked up for cocaine possession( he will be out at the end of the year). I sent another letter asking to have my interview reschduled once more. the strange thing thats worrying me is that i just got a letter from USCIS over the weekend, and they told me that my petition has been denied due to abandonment, and my reason for not showing up were for no good cause, they also mentioned that i could fill to re-open my case, but his girlfriend just sent me the divorce papers, he wants out of our marriage (if u can still call it one).


i have been seeing someone else for a few months now, but i was hoping to grind it out with my husband and get my green card and then move on, with my current boyfriend (usc).


My question is, how do i get a divorced and still be eligble and in status to marry my boyfriend? and how long do i have to do that if its at all possible.
i don't want to sign the papers if its not possible.

PLEASE I REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE !!!
 
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I'll suggest that you get him to withdrwal the application ( this is every important) , am not sure it will be better after the divorce or before the divorce but I guess sending the withdrawal letter along with the divorce papers will be a good ground.


Then you can now married you boyfriend if you guys decide to do that & he can file for you later but be prepared to answer questions regarding your first application

Good luck
 
VAWA= Self petition for Lawfull immigration status

This is a case for an immigration attorney to handle, you may have a lot of options none of which would require you to stay in an abusive relationship just to obtain GC, the US has laws and options in place to protect you in situations like this.
There might be another way, Such as The Violence Against Women ACT ( VAWA) Such Laws Allow women that have been abused to Self-petition for lawfull immigration status

I would talk to an attorney and let him know of your Husbands history of infidelaty and abuse, as well as drug habits,
You may granted GC due to your situation,

You need a good immigration attorney for this, since you are in an abusive relationship there may be some solutions,

I DO NOT reccomend you as you say "grind it out" until you get GC, the longer you stay married to this fool the more dangerous things can get, you dont want to go down with him for his drug habits, or even worse end up getting hurt physically, withdrawing the application (I=130) and seeing if you can Still submit the I485 (under VAWA Act) based on your current situation, is a good start
http://www.uscis.gov/graphics/publicaffairs/statements/IMBRA_061306PN.pdf

You already have another boyfriend :eek:

That situation may become a problem as well,You need closure with your husband before getting into another relationship, you are setting your self up for a future of abuse, once this cycle starts it will be hard to break, and it could end up in more pain. I hope your current BF is of good character and can help you, ask him accompany you to the Appt. with an attorney.

I only pray for your situation to get better and I hope you find the right solution, Please keep your own safety & Wellbeing a priority over anything else,

Good Luck & God Bless
 
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