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[CONFUSEDFOREVER]

hello there, am an F1 student marrying an american citizen ,and going to apply for the adjustment of status.The problem is we are not telling her parents about our marriage, so the affidavit of support has become a problem, since she is still a student and does not earn sufficient enough to meet the guidelines of the affidavit of support.At the same time we dont have any joint sponser.But i heard that i can co-sponser myself, but being on F1 status how can i work, it is illegal, right, so what do i do now, is there anyway out for this.We dont even have any assets to show Please anybody give me ur valueble suggestion to come out of this.
THANKYOU

 

[dr_lha]

You need a co-sponsor, if your wife can't meet the financial requirements. Co-sponsor can be a member of your household or a family member I believe.

Time to reconsider eloping, and cosy up to your future in-laws I think.

 

[Addie_Goodvibes]

It is kind of immature to NOT tell parents, You need to suck it up and be honest. I know from first hand expereince that Facing the In-laws is not Always a positive process, eventually they will know, and will have to except your Marriage. Under your curreent situation it seems as though you do not have many options. Have you considered Aunts/ Uncles. maybe even grandparents?

I suggest go to the parents that are more likely to accept your marriage in other words take the path of least resistance.

If I am not getting too personal here Why is it that you aren't telling at least one set of In-laws? You need to search within your selves on why you aren't telling them & then determine is withholding the truth worth the risk of future such as your AOS process! Go through a little discomfort and take a yelling or lashing now to avoid bigger problems later.

Come time for the interview it would help establish legitimacy of your marriage if you at least one set-of Inlaws is close to you as a couple.

If you are not able to make that choice then you should not be applyinbg for AOS until you have an option for co-sponsor or Sufficient Income between yourselves to apply with out parents Support.

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[pianoplayer]

You need a co-sponsor, if your wife can't meet the financial requirements. Co-sponsor can be a member of your household or a family member I believe.

Time to reconsider eloping, and cosy up to your future in-laws I think.

A joint sponsor does not have to be a relative -- must be a US citizen or permanent resident of the US.

 

[eddie_d]

Non-immigration related advice: take it for what it's worth;

Getting married while still in school AND not telling the parents AND neither one of you work AND you have no assets....recipe for disaster. Sorry to be so blunt but you're starting the marriage off dirt poor and on top of it witha big lie. How sucessfull do you think it will be?

Why not wait a while. Graduate. Get a job, get settled financially. You have yor whole lives ahead of you, why the rush? If it's meant to be, it will still be meant to be a year or two from now.

 

[dr_lha]

A joint sponsor does not have to be a relative -- must be a US citizen or permanent resident of the US.

Yes, sorry. I read on another website that they had to either live with you or be related, but I think this is wrong.

 

[pvkby]

hello there, am an F1 student marrying an american citizen ,and going to apply for the adjustment of status.The problem is we are not telling her parents about our marriage, so the affidavit of support has become a problem, since she is still a student and does not earn sufficient enough to meet the guidelines of the affidavit of support.At the same time we dont have any joint sponser.But i heard that i can co-sponser myself, but being on F1 status how can i work, it is illegal, right, so what do i do now, is there anyway out for this.We dont even have any assets to show Please anybody give me ur valueble suggestion to come out of this.
THANKYOU

I agree with Addie... it is the right thing to do to tell her parents in the first place and secondly it is something that seems like in your situation might make the whole process much easier. As far as a co-sponsor is concerned, Pianoplayer is exactly right, it can be anyone who is a US citizen with a certain level of income. So you can definately ask any other relatives of your wife to be, if no you can dafinately ask a friend....

Another option is for your wife to be to get a job that pays some sort of ok money just to get by with 125% over the poverty line, I understand that working as a clerk at a bank might just do (of course then she would have to carry on a full-time job additionally to the course work at your school) and since she has not filed a tax return, it might cause additional questions, however I think if you provide enough evidence that shows her income, you might just get by...

I cannot answer the question about you working on F1 visa, since I do not know enough details about it. But if you have been in school on F1 for over a year, you can get work authorization if you prove financial hardship, you can always be employed on campus at any given time for not more than 20 hours a week, another way to get work authorization is CPT--bascially if your work is relevant to your course of study (intergrated part of your curriculum), your school can aithorize you to work off campus before the end of the first year on F1. However, in all these situations your job is not permanent and I would imagine that you will have a hard time being a joint-sponsor in these situations, however I can see how this scenario can work if done right...

Good luck

 

[pvkby]

Yes, sorry. I read on another website that they had to either live with you or be related, but I think this is wrong.

they do not have to live with you or be related. if they dont, just get the sponsor to write a letter in addition to I-864 and explain your relation and confirm his willingness to sponsor you and you'll be fine...

 

[jimmyc]

You are in a tough spot. I did not tell my parents until the AOS application process because I needed them to get me a piece of document from my home country.

I am not here to blame you for choosing not telling your parents. There could be a reason, but please take to heart all the suggestions these kind people are offering; evantually, you have to tell your parents, and it's better to be sooner than later.

At least wait until you get a job with your OPT if you decide to apply for AOS. While having a job on OPT, you can meet the I-571 income requirement.

I got a job on OPT, and I married my wife (USC), then we applied for AOS.

Let me know if I can offer any more advice.

 

[Addie_Goodvibes]

I did not tell my parents until the AOS application process because I needed them to get me a piece of document from my home country.

Excellebnt point! My wife needed several documents from her home country that her parents had to help us get, initially they did not accept my request to marry their daughter ( Go back to America ) is what they told me, but she still chose to go on with her life with or without their blessing.

We needed their help to get her Birth Certificate, and other transcripts.

one more reason to address this issue now beofre it become a problem later. or as other suggeted, Finish School, get your degree start working and then once you are financially independent get married and File AOS.

However you still may need help from in laws.

 

[sarrebal]

I hear your point, even though my experience was kinda like the opposite.
And especially other cultures might be more old-fashioned, yet fascinating (I love Japan and we might go there for 4 months if my wife gets into this semester abroad in Tokyo).

After we got engaged, her parents told us to get married in city hall right away in order for me to get a green card and a better job.

We refused, I still got a better job on H1 and then we applied for AOS this year after we came back from honeymoon.

Still, they don't know that we got married in city hall in NYC the friday before our wedding reception in Italy. We didn't act on time to get the right paperwork for a legal marriage in Italy so we legally got married here and then flew to Italy and had a "pro-forma" marriage there. We didn't wanna spoil their day also, especially since some 40 people flew from New York to attend.

 

[rex1960]

hello there, am an F1 student marrying an american citizen ,and going to apply for the adjustment of status.The problem is we are not telling her parents about our marriage, so the affidavit of support has become a problem, since she is still a student and does not earn sufficient enough to meet the guidelines of the affidavit of support.At the same time we dont have any joint sponser.But i heard that i can co-sponser myself, but being on F1 status how can i work, it is illegal, right, so what do i do now, is there anyway out for this.We dont even have any assets to show Please anybody give me ur valueble suggestion to come out of this.
THANKYOU

First of all, don't listen to people telling you how you should or should not get married. It's none of their business basically and they don't know anything about your reasons to do it the way you guys decided.

I asked myself, though, why in the world wouldn't I want to tell my in-laws about marrying their daughter, why wouldn't I want to tell my own parents about getting married. I couldn't come up with anything. That doesn't mean you guys don't have at least one good reason. Out of curiousity I'd like to know and I'm sure others here too. So feel free to deliver some information.

Then again, let's talk USCIS and the process of getting a family based GC through marriage to a USC. Those guys want to know basically two things:

1. Is the marriage bonafide ?
You have to come up with some proof of how genuine your marriage is, pictures, joint accounts, joint property and so forth and they might want to see pictures of a wedding, how you spent your honeymoon and whatnot.
A good relationship to in-laws is one piece of information they might want to hear and it might raise a red flag if you can't come up with a good reason why there is no relationship at all, whatsoever, to those in-laws. Furthermore, I tend to think, telling the USCIS you didn't even informed your in-laws about the marriage might raise this flag even more.

2. Is the GC petitioner financially stable ?
The future sponsor of your GC has to meet certain financial criterias. USCIS wants to make sure you, the future GC holder, won't fall under public welfare. That's why they ask the petitioner of the I-130, your future wife, to sign an Affidavit of Support. Now it's as simple as this: In that moment your wife doesn't meet the financial criterias to sponsor you, you'd need a co-sponsor that meets those criterias. And there's no way to circumvent that.

Maybe you should think about it one or two more times before you guys get married in the first place. But that's just my very personal opinion based on the little information I have so far.

 

[TheInquisitor]

as far as i know, the joint sponsor could anyone off the street. and yes, it wil be hard, but i am believe in true love. and while love don't pay the bills, true love conquers all. i would rather be homeless with a person i love than with with a horrible human being.

good luck on both fronts.

 

[Addie_Goodvibes]

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[kevinglenn]

One other IMPORTANT NOTE
EVERYONE GO TO USER CP section of the forum click on Buddy/ignore list

ADD TheInquisitor THE IGNORANT NINNY to your ignore list
if you are tired of reading his insulting meaningless spewing.
All his posts are pointless ingnorant, insulting, & spewing foolish nonsense.

Ignore him and do not entertain his random act of lunacy or even his existance for that matter.

Uhm...for a moment there I thought u were referring to urself above....that is until I noticed the random-act-of-lunacy line. Ur acts of lunacy are anything but random...more like...uhm what's the word...eternal?

 

[kevinglenn]

Non-immigration related advice: take it for what it's worth;

Getting married while still in school AND not telling the parents AND neither one of you work AND you have no assets....recipe for disaster. Sorry to be so blunt but you're starting the marriage off dirt poor and on top of it witha big lie. How sucessfull do you think it will be?

Why not wait a while. Graduate. Get a job, get settled financially. You have yor whole lives ahead of you, why the rush? If it's meant to be, it will still be meant to be a year or two from now.

Where in his original piece did he request a shrink? Answering questions on here is optional not mandatory.

Non-immigration related advice: Ur advice above is the sum of unintelligible nonsense. Is there ever a formula for a successful marriage or otherwise?

"Wise men talk because they have something to say...Idiots talk because they have to say something"

- Plato.

 

[Addie_Goodvibes]

Uhm...for a moment there I thought u were referring to urself above....that is until I noticed the random-act-of-lunacy line. Ur acts of lunacy are anything but random...more like...uhm what's the word...eternal?

If you have read most of Inquisitors post they are confrontational & random mumblings at best you would understand why myself and others are sick of his offensive confusing posts & lack of tact.

 

[kevinglenn]

If you have read most of Inquisitors post they are confrontational & random mumblings at best you would understand why myself and others are sick of his offensive confusing posts & lack of tact.

Revisit the transcripts of ur numerous "advice" (which is ur euphemism for unsolicited balderdash subliminally wrapped in a holier-than-thou sermon) and tell me what right u have in conferring the above adjectives on others.

Go to an attorney! and Thank your parents for getting you into this mess!

See what I mean?