My story
My husband applied for an asylum in 1992, got an interview and the approval in 1998,
SIX YEARS LATER.
I, just like your friends wife, stayed in a home country with a kid.
Waited for almost two years, and then came over in 1994 on a visitor’s visa.
I decided to stayed here after my visa expired (never knew it was going to take that long!).
I waited alone with my husband another four years for his approval. In 1998 he submitted
I-730 for me and the child, we got approved in 1999 and my overstay was forgotten.
Everybody’s story is different. Maybe your friend gets lucky and will receive his approval tomorrow, or it could be another 2 to 4 years.
When you dealing with INS – there is no certainty.
I understand your friend’s torment – not be able to be his family for that long, not knowing what to tell them and when he’ll see them again. My advice for him is to get his wife and kids over here as soon as he can. It took me 6 trips to the USA embassy before I finally got my visa. She can do it too.
Here is another reason for his wife to come over here:
I know a couple whose husband waited here for his approval for some time, and by the time his wife and their kid came here on the visitor’s visas, he already received his final denial. His wife applied for an asylum right way. And her case was much stronger and well presented. She got her approval in two month and her husband, previously denied, got derivative asylum.