On the other hand
You can take this new FP notice, your wife's 2nd FP notice and copy of your old 1st FP notice - and go to the FP center. Explain them the situation and try to convince them that your wife have rcvd the notice by mistake - it should be for you...
See if that works...
BTW, will you post your RD, ND, 1st FP, RFE details?
Wish you goodluck!