interview coming up and have 3 problems

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token_ranger

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1. Age difference
2. wife is 3 times divorced (to americans) :(
3. She has heart problems that have really compunded in the last year, i have known her three years.
As a consequence she cant work and i only just started back at work.

Will i be able to sponsor myself? get another sponsor?
Other than the standard docs what can i bring to help?
If it came to it can i plead that if i leave she will die without the transplant she needs and claim grounds on that?
Its true she is that bad.
I want only for her to be healthy again and if they say i have to leave when she is better its ok as long as she is happy and able to do what she used to without getting so worn out.
 
token_ranger said:
1. Age difference
2. wife is 3 times divorced (to americans) :(
3. She has heart problems that have really compunded in the last year, i have known her three years.
As a consequence she cant work and i only just started back at work.

Will i be able to sponsor myself? get another sponsor?
Other than the standard docs what can i bring to help?
If it came to it can i plead that if i leave she will die without the transplant she needs and claim grounds on that?
Its true she is that bad.
I want only for her to be healthy again and if they say i have to leave when she is better its ok as long as she is happy and able to do what she used to without getting so worn out.
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who is getting the green card? yourself or wife (i would guess the answer but i would want to double confirm it with you)?

she has to file the I-864. If your salary meets / exceeds the 125% guideline, you can file the I-864A too. However, did you file past 3 yrs tax? if not, why not (you need to explain it in the form as if you would want to file the I-864A too). if neither one works, you might need to get a co-sponsor. If the co-sponsor's income / assets exceeds / meets the guideline, you would njot need to file I-864a for yourself.

age different... who is older?

also, about her health, i am not sure if USCIS immigration officer would have a kind heart to take it as consideration. If i were you, i would not put this subject on the table until you have no choice (such as your application been denied).
 
I agree that it is better you leave her health matter out of the issue for now.

Once she is strong enough to attend the interview with you & answer all the necessary questions, I do not forsee any trouble

wishing best of luck
 
There is really nothing you can do, the facts are the facts. I would say your main problem is the age difference... I have seen many cases where the age difference by itself led to a second interview. Just be completely prepared for the interview so the adjudicator cannot have doubt. But most importantly, do not just volunteer any info that is not asked (like health problems).
 
My only advice is that answer what you have been ask not volunteer any info or out of matter like her health problems since anyway the one who must be clear in health is you not her. About divorcing thing, she is the American and she has been marry with Americans as well so there is not an issue there, if the issue was that she had been marry three times with foreigners then I will say "dear you better be prepare", but this is not the case and you know my answer about age difference.

Sometime2006, can you tell us how was the difference and the specific cases that you said that the age had lead to a second interview?

We all should remember, that the every case is totally different and does not matter that e.g. you and me have "apparently" the same case (even nationality, race, age, etc, etc.) is not the same for the interview. Every case is different.

Good luck,
 
The health issue i had planned to use as a last resort.
Short answers that are specific and to the point, explaining only when asked.
As for the taxes, we filed for the last 2 years jointly since we have only been married 2 years (almost) so 3 is quite impossible.
I work but only just got back to it because i let my ead slip and it took 4 months to get a new one, i was over the limit last year and since i am at the same job and got a promotion when i went back (almost double pay) i think i might be fine with that. Saying that i wont have any pay stubs to prove it since i get paid bi-weekly but i do have paystubs from before i was forced to leave, along with a w2.
We already sent the affidavit of support in when we filed the i-129f and i think when we sent in the i-485 but i dont know if that means anything.
Will they ask for her pay stubs? can i say she is taking a leave of absence because she pretty much is, she for sure wants to go back when she gets better (might need a letter from her employers for that one.)
We have a sponsor that is pretty well off (contractor) who told my wife who just told me he would be happy to sponsor me.
Yeah and i am 27 and she is 50 i am not happy about it and i truly wish she was 27 but such is life and love.
Its messed up.
 
Wait a minute, so you are 27 and she is 50, she has been married and divorced three times AND she has serious heart problems!!! Am I the only one here who thinks this marriage is as fake as it gets?! No seriously do you think USCIS are too dumb they are gonna approve this?
 
TooCoolForThis said:
Wait a minute, so you are 27 and she is 50, she has been married and divorced three times AND she has serious heart problems!!! Am I the only one here who thinks this marriage is as fake as it gets?!
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Nope, you're not the only one. :)
 
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fake?
You dont even know us so how can you say it is fake, the only reason i am in this country i dont even like that much is because of her.
I would gladly go back home if it wasn't for her.
I didnt ask for judgement without the facts i asked for help.
come spend 10 minutes with us you will know we are not fake.
I couldn't care less about a piece of dumb plastic that says i can stay here.
But if i don't apply for it i cannot remain here with her.
 
token_ranger said:
fake?
You dont even know us so how can you say it is fake, the only reason i am in this country i dont even like that much is because of her.
I would gladly go back home if it wasn't for her.
I didnt ask for judgement without the facts i asked for help.
come spend 10 minutes with us you will know we are not fake.
I couldn't care less about a piece of dumb plastic that says i can stay here.
But if i don't apply for it i cannot remain here with her.
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well... remember this... the interview officer does not know you too. they might think your marriage is fake.

So, how are you going to prove it?
 
Why is everyone being so negative about this? just because someone married someone else in a different age group. I'm sure many people marry everyday and there are age gaps. I thought this was a forum to get together and share experiences, thoughts and ideas, all I read here are people treading on someone elses relationship. How would you all feel if I were to say your marriage were fake and you better start worrying? I've noticed some people here don't even share a common language but even manage to get approved.

Yes I understand we have to be honest with our thoughts, but some people here seem abit brutal. Maybe they can't express themselves or are jealous that they got denied, maybe they are just trolls. I've found this website to be really imformative and helpful in recent weeks, but I can't stand when others try and treat someone with suspicion just because it doesn't fit their picture of an "ideal" marriage. Yes, the USCIS might ask more questions than usual, doesn't mean Token can't prove its a bona-fide marriage at the end of the day.
 
ocworker said:
well... remember this... the interview officer does not know you too. they might think your marriage is fake.

So, how are you going to prove it?
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I have plenty of photos,
All kinds of evidence of a joint life, taxes, car insurance and stuff. all we will ever need.
I have a modest house, with a cat, dog and a fish with my wife ( i have pictures of those too)
I know i love my wife and i dont know if i can prove it but i am gonna try my best.
 
UnionJax said:
Why is everyone being so negative about this? just because someone married someone else in a different age group. I'm sure many people marry everyday and there are age gaps. I thought this was a forum to get together and share experiences, thoughts and ideas, all I read here are people treading on someone elses relationship. How would you all feel if I were to say your marriage were fake and you better start worrying? I've noticed some people here don't even share a common language but even manage to get approved.

Yes I understand we have to be honest with our thoughts, but some people here seem abit brutal. Maybe they can't express themselves or are jealous that they got denied, maybe they are just trolls. I've found this website to be really imformative and helpful in recent weeks, but I can't stand when others try and treat someone with suspicion just because it doesn't fit their picture of an "ideal" marriage. Yes, the USCIS might ask more questions than usual, doesn't mean Token can't prove its a bona-fide marriage at the end of the day.
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thanks man
My wifes ex husband imported a chinese lady who cant speak english, so i have no idea how they managed to get married :confused:
 
token_ranger said:
thanks man
My wifes ex husband imported a chinese lady who cant speak english, so i have no idea how they managed to get married :confused:
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Token,
Be proud that you are not one of the generic couples...Love doesnt care if your age, race, cast or creed is different!
Build mental strength/ spread positive vibes. Thats all we can do, other than 200% preperation for it.
 
I am USC. My wife is also older than me. We are also worried about how to prove to IO. We're planning to show them tons of pictures for the past three years we've been together. Everything that required for the interview. We're also planning to get jobs in same company. I do think optimistic about the age gap. Just think back how you could overcome the age gap in the beginning of your relationship. Try to use those thoughts to prove to IO.

Token: Be confident. Follow the advise you got earlier, leave the health problem to the last. Well prepare for your interview, I think you will be fine. Let's do our best!!! Good luck to you and to myself and other people in same situation.
 
UnionJax said:
Why is everyone being so negative about this? just because someone married someone else in a different age group. I'm sure many people marry everyday and there are age gaps. I thought this was a forum to get together and share experiences, thoughts and ideas, all I read here are people treading on someone elses relationship. How would you all feel if I were to say your marriage were fake and you better start worrying? I've noticed some people here don't even share a common language but even manage to get approved.

Yes I understand we have to be honest with our thoughts, but some people here seem abit brutal. Maybe they can't express themselves or are jealous that they got denied, maybe they are just trolls. I've found this website to be really imformative and helpful in recent weeks, but I can't stand when others try and treat someone with suspicion just because it doesn't fit their picture of an "ideal" marriage. Yes, the USCIS might ask more questions than usual, doesn't mean Token can't prove its a bona-fide marriage at the end of the day.
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I, for one, am not judging anyone on anything. A poster asked if he was the only one getting the feeling their marriage is as fake as it gets, and to be honest I shared that sentiment.

You have to give us a little credit though. Two things: first, it's not just the age difference (see list below), and second it's not just any age difference...we're talking about 22+ years here.

-There's a 22+ years in age difference.(Sorry if the number is not accurate, but I'm sure it's a good estimate).

-Usually with an age difference, the husband is the older one. Here, the wife is. So we can at least say it's very highly unusual.

-She's been married three times already

-She has a son, whom with his mom's age I'm assuming is within the same generation as the OP.

-She has a serious heart condition.

-The OP did at one time start a thread asking about whether or not he would still get a green card if his wife dies.

From where I'm standing, the relationship looks as fake as it gets. I'm not saying it is, but what more indications does one need to make that assumption? The OP, to say the least, is going to have a hard time proving his relationship genuine to the IO.

I don't have anything personal against anyone. Afterall, it's just a discussion board, and the OP shouldn't be looking for approval from the bunch of strangers on the web. Consequently, he shouldn't care about what any of us has to say, which I assume he doesn't.

So, chill.
 
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yeah i did ask about what happened if she died, i was just curious, i plan to go home if god forbid that happened.
I am not expecting approval and i am not going in there with any expectations towards that end, i honestly think i am going to get flat out denied or at the most get the "stokes" because it does look as fake as all get out.
Also she has a daughter my age, 2 of them.
It looks shoddy as all get out and i will try my best but fully expect to have to go home.
She is 50 but honestly she looks about 30 and i don't know if that will affect anything so who knows, i will post my interview experience but for now i gotta get ready for it, hopefully someone can learn from it.
As for the heart problems they are congenital (from birth) so even if she was 27 she would still have them i don't know if that matter or not.
 
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