How to cancel my sponsorship?

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iduffy61

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My husband has a temporary green card, and he goes for the renewal for permanent in September.
He's physically and mentally abusive to my kids and me, and threatened to kill me, I just got a restraining order and he is living elsewhere. Is there anything I can do to prevent him from getting his permanent green card, like cancel sponsorship or something. Please help.

Thank you.
 
If you are talking about financial sponsorship, there is nothing you can do. You remain his sponsor as long as he remains a permanent resident.

However, you can make it harder for him to get his unconditional (10-year) GC by not signing his I-751.

One other thing - US Immigration is very strict and very unforgiving when it comes to domestic violence. If you feel that he deserves legal consequences for what he has done, you might want to think about pressing charges. Also, violation of the restraining order is a deportable offense - NO QUESTION ABOUT IT!! If he gets in contact with you, even if you invite him, while the restraining order is in effect, he will be found guilty - and then you can notify immigration immediately - they will take care of the rest.

Btw, is he the father of the children you are talking about? If yes, he would most likely get his 10-year card even if you don't sign on it - since a joint child shows good faith nature of his marriage to you.
 
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I will not be helping him at all or signing anything for him to stay here.
No he is not the father of any of my kids.
So do I have to inform Immigration of when he's been arrested, that I have restraining order on him, etc?
If he violates the restraining order, he's done, that's it?

Thank you so much for responding.
 
Well, just having a restraining order is no big deal.
But if he violates the restraining order, that's a big deal - even if this happens after somehow he manages to get his 10-yr GC.
Now, if the violation happens before he files to remove his conditions, Immigration will look into his background anyway and they will know about it. If it happens after he *somehow* manages to get his 10-yr GC, Immigration will not know about until someone reports him, or he applies for some immigration benefit, like become a US citizen. In either case, if he violates the restraining order, charged with it and found guilty - just speak to a border patrol agent in your town, and trust me, they will pick him up.

Also, if you have any doubts about his intention behind marrying you - or you are now sure that he just used you - write a letter to Immigration, include his A-number, and take it to local immigration office. Nothing will happen at this point, but when the time comes for removing his condition, this letter along with your "no cooperation" will make things harder.
 
Btw, look at the terms of the restraining order. It's possible that in addition to the restriction that he can't contact or communicate with you, even through a friend, he might have additional restrictions like can't be within so many feet of your house etc. So, if you find that he violated ANY of these terms, DON'T WAIT, and call the cops to catch him in action. For example, if he can't be within some distance of you and your kids, and the cops find him within that distance - almost with 100% guarantee he will be charged and found guilty - EVEN IF HE WASN'T DOING ANYTHING.
 
Yes everything you named is apart of the restraining order.
Thank you again you've been a big help.
I will write letters for Immigration immediately.
 
Guys,
Please don't pass judgements on someone when you don't know both sides of the story. I have known a friend who was abused by a US citizen wife of ( Immigration cancellation and complaining to INS) every time there was an argument in their marriage. I was at their wedding and I have known them much before they got married ..So to believe that always a US citizen is right and the wrong doer is always an immigrant is judgemental. Anyone can complaint about anyone in this country to judge who is at fault there are courts and law in place.
I am not taking away anything from you duffy but it just doesn't feel right to me when people give away free advices to break a marriage this is an immigration forum not a marital counseling forum.
 
Smiriyal, I don't think anyone passed judgment here. I also don't think anyone gave advice to break a marriage. Everything that has been said here is immigration related.
 
Visanutz,
maybe I should have framed it better. All I am saying is while explaining the intricacies of restraining order and advising people to report to DHS maybe we are fueling the already existing hatred.Here is the scenario someone takes the advice and mails INS a spiced up letter which is quite common when someone is frustrated and furious, meanwhile the immigrant is sorry for his actions and is ready to fix the marriage attend counseling or whatever it takes or the US citizen changes his/her mind. After all not marraige are fraudulent maybe there was real love at the time of marriage.
Don't you think it complicates situations ? I know they all are hypothetical situations but my point is let us use tehse forums to help the intending immigrant with our own experiences rather than giving advices which may backfire on either teh immigrant or US citizen.Remember there are two lives involved or 4 or whatever ..
 
It's clear you agree with my Husbands violent actions, smiriyal. Noone is trying to break up my marriage other then myself. I was trying to get advice on how to get myself out of this situation and any relations with him when he applies for his perm. green card. When someone threatens to kill you and your kids, and is physically/mentally violent, they don't deserve to have US rights. He doesn't care about anyone but himself, maybe you relate to him on some level.
 
Contact the domestic violence office at your court house if you have not already done so. They can either assist you or provide a referral to another office so that you can make the best preparations for your safety. It may be necessary for you to relocate so be prepared to do whatever is necessary.
 
iduffy61 said:
It's clear you agree with my Husbands violent actions, smiriyal. Noone is trying to break up my marriage other then myself. I was trying to get advice on how to get myself out of this situation and any relations with him when he applies for his perm. green card. When someone threatens to kill you and your kids, and is physically/mentally violent, they don't deserve to have US rights. He doesn't care about anyone but himself, maybe you relate to him on some level.
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You don't have to deport him to get out of the situation. Just divorce him and live your life.
 
"It's clear you agree with my Husbands violent actions, smiriyal"

Duffy read my posts repeatedly and tell me at what point do you see, I agreed with your husband's actions infact, it is very obvious his actions are highly loathsome.You got the best advice from Lightcz so far divorce him and let the law take its course.

"When someone threatens to kill you and your kids, and is physically/mentally violent, they don't deserve to have US rights"

Yeah they shouldn't and USCIS is there to decide if he or she can have the rights. This forum as I have been repeatedly trying to make a point, is not to fuel the already highly charged up emotions in such cases but just to give immigration related tips.

" He doesn't care about anyone but himself, maybe you relate to him on some level. "
See, this is exactly what I am talking about .. No dear, infact I relate to you and your state of mind and urging others to not fan it more ..for no fault of mine u made me relate to a wife beater.Some random guy would suggest you "yeah !! he needs to be hanged or shot". Will you shoot him ? I don't know.Yours is a genuine case of abuse, and you should take it to the abuse protection organizations. But there are a lot of people, who feign abuse, just to exploit the immigrant's situation.

There is both Civil and Immigration law in place which will take care of the douche bag ...Just give it a thought had it not been an immigrant but a citizen, what best you could have done besides going for divorce ? Just because you have the benefit of being a citizen you want to get even beyond the law and try to deport him.
 
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