Filed for divorce and need advice

Broken72

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I was married to my husband almost a year ago. We went through the entire process, and he was granted his conditional permanent residency on June 19, 2008. Ever since then, I have found out this marriage was nothing but a scam on his part to gain a green card. Without going into too many details, we lived in Texas, and because of some financial problems, he convinced me he had been offered a great job in Chicago for the summer, but he would be back by October. Obviously, it is not the case, and he no longer intends on coming back to Texas, and I don't believe he ever did.

He and his friend were stupid enough to tell women they wanted to sleep with that they were married, but it was only for a green card, which led to us being reported to ICE. Of course, he told these women I knew all about this scam, and was fine with it, which is absolutely not the case. I loved my husband, and "thought" he loved me. I also reported he and his friend, who is fraudulently married to a "woman", if that's what you want to call her, here in the same city as myself. I have since found out about all kinds of illegal activity that was happening right under my nose and never had a clue about that could potentially put hundreds of people in prison (probably even myself... if for no other reason then for being so blind and stupid) and possibly bring down three multi-million dollar companies.

I made my report to ICE exactly one month ago, and still, nothing has been done. The person I spoke to told me that I needed to call USCIS to find out if I needed to revoke my relative petition and/or my co-sponsorship because my husband had to get a friend to co-sponsor him due to me being extremely ill and not making enough money the year prior to filing for his green card. But, every time I get through to someone at USCIS, they either don't have any idea what I'm talking about, or they just say something like, "Don't worry about it." Yet, when I called the ICE Investigations office in the city I'm in as soon as I found out we had been reported, the investigator told me I should go to the office where we had our interview and revoke something.

I want to know what exactly it is I need to revoke, and how it is I go about doing it. I don't have my paperwork with me, or I would cite the names of the forms and their numbers, so you all would know what I have actually signed. I do know it wasn't anything complicated. He was here on H-3 or something like that, and he already had a social security number before we got married. He applied for a work permit, because this particular visa expired 6 1/2 months after we got married, and we didn't know how long the interview process would take. Once he went in for fingerprints, we had our interview a month and a half later. It wasn't complicated at all.

I would prefer to get divorced and let it go at that, but he has told me that he will make sure I get in trouble if he gets in trouble. Now I have his mother calling me from the middle east almost everyday and asking me to please not do this. I have even tried to get him to come back to "our" home and make things work, but he makes jokes about him going to prison and says the worst thing that will happen to him is that he will get deported. His mother says it's because he's scared, but he has NEVER shown an ounce of fear to me. Actually, he just doesn't do anything... well, until I tell him, "Fine, you know what? You can have your way. You get everything you want," and then, all of a sudden, he changes his mind, and he doesn't want what he wanted the minute before I said I would give him what he wanted. My best friend put it best when she said, "If he wants you out of his life so badly, then why won't he let you go?" Every day it's something different.

I realize that it sounds totally insane for me to be afraid of going to prison for something I didn't do, BUT I am the MOST unlucky person in the world. It's even a joke between my family and all of my friends. We've started joking about me having time to write a book and finish my degree while I'm in prison, because if anyone in this world would be put in prison for loving their husband, it would be me.

And now, to make matters worse, my father has decided he should report this fraud. He doesn't take too kindly to his youngest daughter of 4 daughters, 8 kids in all, being taken advantage of, as well as having her life turned upside down, and I'm not even going into all of the emotional, financial and other damage he's done.

So, again, can ANYONE tell me what forms I need to revoke, how I need to do it, and anything else they think might be of use for me in this situation? I just want to do what is right, because it's the right thing, not because it's what right for me right now. I don't want to look back in 20 years and be ashamed of what I did.

Sorry this was so long, but it's gotten so out of control that once I started writing, it kind of took on a life of it's own. I appreciate any help anyone can give me.

Thanks in advance!!!!
 
I wanted to add that just a few hours ago I received an email from his mother where she told me he's telling her the divorce will be final in a few days and then he will return to Israel. First of all, when I spoke to my attorney on Friday, she was still working on the decree and has yet to send it to me. He didn't even get his attorney until September 22, and we didn't receive anything from her until September 29, and then, it was just a standard form saying he wanted to get divorced because of no hope of reconciling, etc etc. Apparently, he didn't tell his attorney he commited fraud. Amazing the things people forget.

Anyway, then his mother told me that as soon as the divorce is final he's going back to Israel.

The two ICE investigators I have spoken to have told me that if I "got wind" of him fleeing the country that I should report it. Mind you, this woman's first language is Hebrew, and her exact words were, "There are many matters that I can`t speak about, for those who understand will understand. After the divorce he told me he comes to Israel."

He knows that he's been reported to ICE, at least twice, and I have several friends that are dying to report he and his friend, as well. What is the consequence if I don't call? My attorney is claiming fraud as the reason for the divorce, because I just can't afford an annulment, even though that is what I would prefer given the circumstances.

Also, if it does get nasty, which I wouldn't doubt, because I seriously think he's losing his mind, should I get a "regular" criminal attorney, an immigration attorney, someone who does both, or what? In a perfect world, the man I married would come back to the body of the man who is now here, but that isn't going to happen. I'm not fooling myself about that anymore. I just want to be prepared.

Thanks, again, in advance.
 
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