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Life's101s

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I need advice folks on what to do. My USC spouse has decided she wants to move away and do her thing. Says the marriage is not satisfying. Says she is going to wait for filed I-751 to be approved before the files for D. Gosh I can't spell that word.

What does the forum suggest I do?

About us: Been together for (married) almost threes yrs, and I-751 was filed under both names a two months ago.
 
I would file and then let her do what she wants to .

Sorry it didnt work out. Can you guys do therapy?
 
Affirmed said:
I would file and then let her do what she wants to .

Sorry it didnt work out. Can you guys do therapy?
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What would you file? We have talked about therapy. The issue there is the cost. I am willing to pay for it, of course, but I am not sure she'd be willing to share the cost.

This is hard!!
 
If you are legally separated that would cancel her GC Application or both not appearing for the USCIS Interview together.

Has she married you for the Greencard ? . If yes there is no point in therapy .
 
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Nav102 said:
If you are legally separated that would cancel her GC Application or both not appearing for the USCIS Interview together.

Has she married you for the Greencard ? . If yes there is no point in therapy .
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You guys aren't reading these emails seriously are you? What does legally separated mean anyways?
 
Life's101s said:
You guys aren't reading these emails seriously are you? What does legally separated mean anyways?
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Here you go ...

Legal separation (sometimes "judicial separation", "separate maintenance", "divorce a mensa et thoro" or "divorce from bed-and-board") is a legal process by which a married couple may formalise a de facto separation whilst remaining legally married. A couple may obtain a legal separation, as an alternative to divorce, based on moral or religious objections to divorce.

Legal separation does not automatically lead to divorce. A couple may reconcile, in which case they need do nothing in order to remain married. If they do not reconcile, and wish to divorce, they must file for divorce explicitly.

In the United States, issues that can be addressed in a separation agreement include division of assets and debts, child custody and support, visitation schedules, alimony, etc. Almost all states except Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi, Pennsylvania, and Texas recognize a legal documentation of separation
 
I still haven't gotten the type of advice I'd wish for. I guess not many people are in that picture. Or no one is interested. Adios then.

Nav102 said:
Here you go ...

Legal separation (sometimes "judicial separation", "separate maintenance", "divorce a mensa et thoro" or "divorce from bed-and-board") is a legal process by which a married couple may formalise a de facto separation whilst remaining legally married. A couple may obtain a legal separation, as an alternative to divorce, based on moral or religious objections to divorce.

Legal separation does not automatically lead to divorce. A couple may reconcile, in which case they need do nothing in order to remain married. If they do not reconcile, and wish to divorce, they must file for divorce explicitly.

In the United States, issues that can be addressed in a separation agreement include division of assets and debts, child custody and support, visitation schedules, alimony, etc. Almost all states except Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi, Pennsylvania, and Texas recognize a legal documentation of separation
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Indian_Citizen said:
What do you want know? Please list those things
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If you are married to a USC of course and
  1. Have filed your I-751 jointly;
  2. then before approval the USC spouse tells you she is bored and wants to move on;
  3. tells you she may wait till you get your I-751 approved. Can she be trusted? "You're the spouse, you should know better!!";
  4. then she pretty much wants to bail out;
  5. the Question is, whats an average Joe to do here?

Some people say try counselling, which is a good idea. But counselling is not cheap. Well unless if you find some org that do it for free. What would the Indian_Citizen do?
 
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Nav102 said:
If you are legally separated that would cancel her GC Application or both not appearing for the USCIS Interview together.

Has she married you for the Greencard ? . If yes there is no point in therapy .
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Come on..ppl..read the op before making a post. the op is the one that need a green card no his USC spouse. If he is already filed for i-751..then just wait and see if there's an interview. If there's one, just go and explain the things if his USC spouse bailed out.
 
bestpal said:
Come on..ppl..read the op before making a post. the op is the one that need a green card no his USC spouse. If he is already filed for i-751..then just wait and see if there's an interview. If there's one, just go and explain the things if his USC spouse bailed out.
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Maybe you can provide a better answer ,since you feel you are qualified to comment on my reply!
 
Life's101s said:
If you are married to a USC of course and
  1. Have filed your I-751 jointly;
  2. then before approval the USC spouse tells you she is bored and wants to move on;
  3. tells you she may wait till you get your I-751 approved. Can she be trusted? "You're the spouse, you should know better!!";
  4. then she pretty much wants to bail out;
  5. the Question is, whats an average Joe to do here?

Some people say try counselling, which is a good idea. But counselling is not cheap. Well unless if you find some org that do it for free. What would the Indian_Citizen do?
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1. Ok. That’s good.
2. Can you do anything make that marriage not so boring for her?
3. You are right! You are the better person to answer that
4. I guess only you know that answer
5. Depends on how intelligent is that Joe!
 
If the main concern when there is discussion of a divorce is how to continue with GC processing, it appears that the primary reason for the marriage was the GC. Just an observation from someone who has been married for 40 years.
 
Concerned4us said:
If the main concern when there is discussion of a divorce is how to continue with GC processing, it appears that the primary reason for the marriage was the GC. Just an observation from someone who has been married for 40 years.
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The op must prove it the marriage was entered for the immigration benefit. I have yet to see one USC spouse on this board come on here and successfully prove it.

All I have to say to the op is good luck....
 
Concerned4us said:
If the main concern when there is discussion of a divorce is how to continue with GC processing, it appears that the primary reason for the marriage was the GC. Just an observation from someone who has been married for 40 years.
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I believe that before you ACT on anything, it helps to have as much information as you can. So if your USC wife, were to say they are bored and want out, well the person(s) who have /are affiliated with USC spouse ought to be concerned, investigate what that really means for themselves. Its just being vigilant. It in no way means the marriage was entered into only for immigration purposes. Situations change as people get married, and so life should move on.

Another point this is an immigration forum, if it was a financial forum for people in divorce proceedings we would be asking about money matters right?

So bottom line is that the while the GC is being processed, and USC spouse has a right at anytime to decide to live their life how they see fit. If that means seeking a divorce so be it. Persons potentially affected negatively by it should find information that best addresses their situation, and life moves on.
 
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