thank you for answers.
I came under J1 which expired (but we submit all the document 485/130 etc before J1 expired).
My wife US Citizen does not work currently. I do work with salary of $75,000.
We have been asked for RFE last summer 2008 and upon submitting the package, they never followed up.
I am 4 years behind waiting for decision, went through 2 attorneys, bunch of letters, inquiries, congressman involved, etc. the further I got was "some unresolved issues on your case still pending, security bla bla bla".. so considering WOM, but I know they got harsh on people that are winning those WOMs and going through nasty fraud department inteview (called nicely "follow-up interview"), in this case I would rather wait a while more than getting denied out of some stupidy, but I would like to know what heppens in such a situation where one is denied.
Hope this information helps.