Hi everyone. I know a lot of people had come here to seek advice about their marriage problems and immigration. Now, I am here to seek some for mine.
I am married to a USC for almost 2 years now.This coming July 18 would be our second anniversary. The past 2 years has been a struggle for me. I came here with a fiance visa and I had my temporary green card already. It will expire this January 2008. I know we will have to file a joint petition this November to lift the conditions of my status. November is not too far away like a lot of people would tell me but I have been feeling really low about myself for the things that had been going on with our marriage.
My husband and I had this argument couple days ago and everytime we argued used to be when I was new he would tell me to think about going home. For the past months he would tell me to go to my friend's house or since I am working now I could afford to rent my own place. I am really sick of him telling me to go home and now to go to my friend or that I can rent my own place now since I am working. Since I moved here to be with him everytime I miss home and I would tell him I wouldn't even get a comfort from him that things will be fine and that he is here for me. I don't have any family here, only him but instead of comforting words he would instead tell me to rethink being here and go back home. It has been like this everytime we argue.
Since we have been together he doesnt really give me money. I just started working recently in the medical field and since I got here he didn't give me any access to his bank accounts. If he gives me money he will only give me like $20 to $80 dollars. I feel like a kid and that only happened when I started going to school here in Houston last September 2006. That is like my allowance for a month or 2 weeks or when he feels like giving me money. But we have this joint account that we opened last December so he can put there a $100 a month when he would go to work on his part time job. If he doesn't then no money would come in there. Now that I am working he told me that he will ask for it back and change it to go back to his bank account. He wants to cut our long distance service to my country and he just wants me to buy my own phone cards. There are so many things going on. I don't know how to feel anymore. All he wouldnt want to put me in his bank account because he wants to track all of his bills and finances. I didn't even know how much he is making since he told me last November on Thanksgiving because we had a fight and I told him that I am really feeling low about myself. I feel like I am not part of anything.
He used to tell me before that he didn't want me to write checks because he doesn't know if I'm confident enough to pay his bills. I really don't know what to think anymore. He would used to ask me if I know what 911 is. Geez, I graduated Computer Science before I came here in the US. It would hurt me because he would tell me stuff like "When we have a kid and you kiss him, I'm going to call him and wipe his face because he says I give such wet and sloppy kisses and that he thinks that my laptop is so green now with molds. I was like what do you think I am dirty? I really don't know what to feel anymore.
I don't know if I should stay and hold on until I get my green card and get my permanent resident status. A part of me has been wanting to leave. I just don't want to stay with him jus to get my green card. I want to know if I could just petition myself and if I have a good shot at it. A lot of people told me to stay and just get my green card but I really don't know what to do anymore.
I hope you guys can give me some advice on what to do. I would greatly appreciate any information I can get on how to go about this. Thank you so much.
I am married to a USC for almost 2 years now.This coming July 18 would be our second anniversary. The past 2 years has been a struggle for me. I came here with a fiance visa and I had my temporary green card already. It will expire this January 2008. I know we will have to file a joint petition this November to lift the conditions of my status. November is not too far away like a lot of people would tell me but I have been feeling really low about myself for the things that had been going on with our marriage.
My husband and I had this argument couple days ago and everytime we argued used to be when I was new he would tell me to think about going home. For the past months he would tell me to go to my friend's house or since I am working now I could afford to rent my own place. I am really sick of him telling me to go home and now to go to my friend or that I can rent my own place now since I am working. Since I moved here to be with him everytime I miss home and I would tell him I wouldn't even get a comfort from him that things will be fine and that he is here for me. I don't have any family here, only him but instead of comforting words he would instead tell me to rethink being here and go back home. It has been like this everytime we argue.
Since we have been together he doesnt really give me money. I just started working recently in the medical field and since I got here he didn't give me any access to his bank accounts. If he gives me money he will only give me like $20 to $80 dollars. I feel like a kid and that only happened when I started going to school here in Houston last September 2006. That is like my allowance for a month or 2 weeks or when he feels like giving me money. But we have this joint account that we opened last December so he can put there a $100 a month when he would go to work on his part time job. If he doesn't then no money would come in there. Now that I am working he told me that he will ask for it back and change it to go back to his bank account. He wants to cut our long distance service to my country and he just wants me to buy my own phone cards. There are so many things going on. I don't know how to feel anymore. All he wouldnt want to put me in his bank account because he wants to track all of his bills and finances. I didn't even know how much he is making since he told me last November on Thanksgiving because we had a fight and I told him that I am really feeling low about myself. I feel like I am not part of anything.
He used to tell me before that he didn't want me to write checks because he doesn't know if I'm confident enough to pay his bills. I really don't know what to think anymore. He would used to ask me if I know what 911 is. Geez, I graduated Computer Science before I came here in the US. It would hurt me because he would tell me stuff like "When we have a kid and you kiss him, I'm going to call him and wipe his face because he says I give such wet and sloppy kisses and that he thinks that my laptop is so green now with molds. I was like what do you think I am dirty? I really don't know what to feel anymore.
I don't know if I should stay and hold on until I get my green card and get my permanent resident status. A part of me has been wanting to leave. I just don't want to stay with him jus to get my green card. I want to know if I could just petition myself and if I have a good shot at it. A lot of people told me to stay and just get my green card but I really don't know what to do anymore.
I hope you guys can give me some advice on what to do. I would greatly appreciate any information I can get on how to go about this. Thank you so much.
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