Just wanted to comment on Chikkis's post, especially the following qoute :
" If you indicate that you have re-entered on H1, then it appears that it is a direct conflict with your intentions (I 485)". This is simply not true. H1-B as well as L are dual intent visas and INS has explicitly allowed their holders to have immigrant intent as well as use them for re-entry while I-485 is pending - refer to INS interim rule in Federal Regsiter for full details (
http://frwebgate3.access.gpo.gov/cgi-bin/waisgate.cgi?WAISdocID=4878223781+8+0+0&WAISaction=retrieve)
ndantu - as far as your question, you may want to consult a lawyer but it seems to me that your only option would be travel on H1-B, because if you re-enter on AP, your spouse will not be eligible for H4. Also, it appears that your best option would be to wait until you get married, file for H4, bring your wife here and then apply for I-485 - together with her. I'm not saying that it's impossible to then add het to your I-485, but it takes more effort, besides you may have difficulties convincing INS that the marriage was not bogus.
Again, consult your lawyer to work out the best plan of actions for you, but one thing is for sure - if you re-enter on AP, your wife is not elgible for H4. If, however, you enter on H1, she can enter on H4, you can file I-485( either for both of you on only for her if yours is already pending ) and then both of your are free to travel on AP and work on EAD
Hope this helps
Good luck