Sandkit, I have exactly (ok, almost exactly) the same situation as you.
RD: 10/7,02.
2nd FP: 5/20/04 for me, June last week for wife.
RFE for me: 8/18/04: Status & Employment verification
RFE for wife: 8/18/04: Generated but never received.
My RFE received........:: September 14,2004...