Pegali
It sounds like you had an asylum application which went to the judge. Which also means you were in the removal proceedings.
First your application has been transfered to San Fransisco,( Local office), because you will have to do an interview for I 130 to prove that your marriage is bonifide. This is because you either married while you were in the proceedings or you file while you were in the proceedings. They assume that marriage is fraud until you prove otherwise. The burden is on you.
Don't file I 485, because you are under the immigration court. You will have to be released by the judge then you can file I 485 with INS or you will have to file I 485 with the judge. (this really depends on the judge)
Now back to the (9th circuit case), you want to keep that open, so that once your I 130 interview is done and you are approved, you can continue with the process etc. If you don't appeal, you will be given a voluntary departure, and if you don't leave by the specified time, you will be given the
" bag and baggage letter" to appear somewhere so that they can deport you. This will be done regardless of your I 130 application (approved or not).
And also, if you let this case closed by the immigration court, once you have I 130 approved, you won't even be able to file I 485 until you request a Motion to Reopen the case at the court, so that you can do what I describe above (have the judge release you from the court etc).
So your priority now should definitely be to keep the ( 9th circuit case open), I don't see how you can do that without a lawyer. Also, you and your spouse prepare well for your I 130 interview, start putting together evidence.
PS: In I 485 application,there are questions which requires Yes or No answers. One of them requires you to say if you are in the removal proceedings, have deportation order etc. So filing I 485 now will just disqualify you and make everything hard for you. I know it sounds hard, and believe me, I know the lawyers can be expensive and some even not that informed. You definetely need to talk to the lawyer who understand your situation (especially removal proceedings etc). I don't see a way around it. Most immigration court proceedings are not well documented, otherwise, you could have done it all this yourself.