Help married 25 yo needs answers about getting green card trough wife.

[warbunny]

Background: I came to the united states Illegally at the age of 6 from mexico. I got married to my wife at the age of 21 and we have been happily married for the past five years. When we got married we went to see 3 different lawyers and they all told us the same thing that I would be hit by the ten year bar due to staying past my 18th birthday and that they did not recommend processing my case until their was a opportunity because if my waiver got denied I would be stuck in mexico. To this day 5 years have passed and recently my parents brought to my attention the new obama policy, however they also mentioned that I would no longer need to go mexico for my 10 year bar waiver. Now honestly I have not done anything about my Illegal status in the past 5 years and quite simply I really wanna know where to start.
first question is where can i find a good lawyer in my area?
my second question is for the people in similar situations how hard it is and what i should expect?
and is it true that if your married to a citizen then you don't have to leave the US for a green card?
if their are any lawyers on here would the obama policy help me at all?
should I process the paperwork myself or trough a lawyer?
any answers will be greatly appreciated and if you need any further information feel free to ask. thank you guys so much in advance.

[pachanga]

My wife's niece (US citizen) married to an illegal immigrant who was brought to California when he was 5 or 6 years old. About two years ago, he was arrested for DUI and deported to Mexico. My wife's niece submitted a petition to get his permanent residency last year. I heard that he had to go to the US Consulate in Juarez for some reason. Now he got an employment authorization card and is back to California legally this time. I think he is about 21 years old or so.