In Love With Someone Far Away, But... Somethings Not Right

[Landl0rd]

I wasn't sure where to put this. I guess here. Wondering if I could get some "love" advice... But I've been talking to this wonderful woman from Ukraine (30years old.) For almost 3 months. On the web-cam nearly everynight for the last 2 months. We say the L word alot. I know its hard for her to come here. So I was going to go there. But everytime we talk about an exact date, she backs out. I dont know what to do. Is this worth my time? What is going on? After you talk to someone for 2 months straight every night. you get to know them! What should I do here? I'm Lost.

[Triple Citizen]

If you know where exactly she lives, or claims to live, pay her a surprise visit. You might be educated in more ways than one.

What should I do here? I'm Lost.

[Landl0rd]

Yes. I know exactly where she lives, I sent her a small gift, and she has it. What do you think would happen? OMG Thats a great idea. Please explain...

[Triple Citizen]

Well there is a possibility that you will get to know why she keeps backing out when you mention visiting her

What do you think would happen? OMG Thats a great idea. Please explain...

[fromnaija]

You could run into a 'married' situation so beware!

[Mary Poppins]

I don’t want to interrupt your sweet dreams but you sure sound like a hormone raging teenager.

Do you honestly believe that you found your true love through the Internet and WEB Cam? It sounds more like a marriage for green card to me. I would be very careful with these kind of over the border relationships. You might end up in the big sobering reality and with a big slap in the face.

Check this forum a little bit and you will find horrific stories about how people like you ended up sooner or later. Lot of women simply claim domestic violence once they brought into the US and then YOU have to move out your own residence and spend a fortune on legal fees not to mention alimony and other sweet things.

If she lives in Ukraine I think she just wants to get out of the country .

[Risah]

Frankly, I agree with the others. Based on what you told, there are BIG RED FLAGS. Proceed at your own risk.

[Landl0rd]

Yes, It is a bit risky. I have no idea what its like over there. But I could swear this woman is an angel. I havent spoken to her in a couple days now, she claims to be in the hospital due to stress... So I just dont know what to think. I am assuming the best thing is to just let this one go, maybe friends at best. But damn, I have so much time invested... It sucks.

[khaobadhi]

If she is trying to avoid your visit to her country then she is definitely counting on you being desperate and inviting her to US. Be very careful and take decisions wisely. It is not very hard to act like an angel when one is not.