There is nothong wrong with saying: "This is beyond me!" Opinionated advice does not help anyone
In the public interest, I quote below the private response to the same questions asked verbatim in a private message.
I am unable to determine if people have used the words case dismissed loosely here.
Situation 1 sounds like the case was really dismissed. Please note that if you were convicted and then served a "sentence" of counselling session, then the case was NOT dismissed.
Situation 2, were charges dropped or were you convicted and ordered to undergo probation?
Situation 3, seems straightforward; no conviction. Dismissed.
Situation 4, depends on what the real paperwork was: was it dismissed, or appeared before a judge and ordered to do DV classes? But I guess NP means there was no prosecution, so no question of conviction.
In my non-legal opinion, you do not seem to have a conviction worth a worry. Howeevr, I would advise speak to a better attorney. I do not like attorneys who are not sure one way or the other.
After my GC, I have stopped frequenting the forum. If you send me a private message I will respond, but only if I see it. A late reply may not do you much good, so please try other avenues first.