US govt do not care how desperate you are to be together 'cos you ARE NOT together in a UNION !!
So the first step is MARRY HER ! (you wasted 1 yr already, but you say you're desperate!)
Well, if marriage is not an option then too bad, she is on her own. There are a LOT of other visa types she can apply (provided she qualifies to apply) on her own to get to US and stay long term. (F1,H1, L, P etc.)
Who said you have to wait 5 years?
Had you married her beginning of last year and had started the GC FB-2A category approach, you may have had already got a pending GC application for her. (they fast fwd FB-2A s last year, now its too late 'cos that category retrogressed again back to 2008)
But it may again speed up, so the best starting point to be together is to get together first and start FB-2A approach.
'cos you have to first get an approved i-130, that approval date determines when she could apply for GC.
And if you have no clue what FB2A is, its time for you to go talk to a good imm. lawyer.
FB approach is better taken with a lawyer advise in any case.
Best !
PS:
Yes it is i-130, not 131. Thanks Joe!
btw, for FB2A you are best served in the 'Family GC Forum'
http://forums.immigration.com/forum...ed-Green-Cards-Through-Marriage-or-a-Relative